BUILDING
A LIFETIME MARRIAGE.
A LECTURE
DELIVERED BY MOTHER CELESTIAL A. A ADEWALE (JP) AT THE CELESTIAL
CHURCH OF CHRIST, YEMETU PARISH, IBADAN ON THE OCCASION OF THEIR
WOMEN’S PROGRAMME, AS PART OF THE 50TH
ANNIVERSARY AND ADULT HARVEST CELEBRATION
ON THURSDAY
NOVEMBER 7, 2013.
Marriage
is a divine institution and a process by which two non-biologically
related people who love each other make their relationship public,
official and permanent. It is a union designed by God to tackle the
problem of loneliness and backed by a sacred vow in the presence of
God and man kind.
‘I
call upon this person…’
FOUNDATION:
Everything in life both living and non-living has its source i.e.
origin. Whoever forgets its source will dry off. Christ is the
foundation.
And the Lord
God said, it is not good that the man should be alone,
I will make
him a help meet. (Genesis 2:18)
If
you buy an electronic gadgets today, there will be a manual attached;
this is to guide you on how best to enjoy it if followed properly,
otherwise, you may lose the equipment.
God
saw the incompleteness of man, hence the need for a help meet. Then,
it is wrong for any man to say I can stay without a woman. Likewise,
a woman is to be a help meet in WHATEVER
form she finds herself.
Furthermore,
the Lord God said in Genesis 2:24
Therefore
shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cleave
unto his wife
and they shall be one flesh.
How
many of our men hearkened to this instruction?
ADVICE:
Let us stay within the instruction of God about marriage and enjoy a
blissful marital life.
The
following are the tips to help a marriage last a lifetime:
- BUILD ON CHRIST
- Allow God’s word to guide you
- Understand that God originated marriage. Therefore, it must not be put asunder.
- Refer every marital problem to Him (God).
Prayer
is the only weapon we have as Christians to fight the agents of
darkness. Do not wait till problem come, learn to pray when you have
no problem or trouble.
NOTE:
The family that prays together stays together. (Proverb 14:1,
Ephesians 5:16)
- LOVE
With love, you can
do anything to sustain your marriage. During courtship, the type of
love that existed between the two lovers cannot be over emphasized.
Let us call that kind of love agape love. It is this type of love
that graduated to the call of both parent in wedlock. It is advised
that this type of love be kept alive THROUGHOUT
your relationship.
Look at the love
that existed between Jacob and Rachel (Genesis 29:20). It made him
serve 14 years instead of 7 years.
The book of Songs of
Solomon chapter 8 verses 7 says;
Many waters
cannot quench love; neither can the floods drown it…
Love never
fails, therefore let us be patient in love.
Proverbs
10:12
So ought men
to love their wives as their own bodies.
Ephesians 5:28-29
- COMMUNICATION
This gives room for
transparency and it gives strength to a relationship, thus
eradicating doubt.
Where there is
no counsel, the people fall but in the multitude of counselors there
is safety. Proverbs
11:14
- BE FOCUSED
Focus means a thing
of interest which one strive to achieve. If your focus in your
marriage is to make you, so shall it be and if otherwise, you shall
reap it. As you set your mind on things that interest you, then it is
very evident for you to strive and get them all in spite of the
obstacles and challenges of life liable to come across your way.
To achieve this,
don’t be a copy cast, try and be yourself. Don’t give room for
third party, live a life of contentment, do not copy the standard of
your friends but try and make God’s standard on marriage your
watchword.
NOTE: Third
party people are marriage destroyers. Therefore,
BEWARE of
them.
- SEX
It has been observed
that the nature of the African culture has worsened the effect of sex
in marriage. Several houses have torn apart as a result of this. Paul
said in 1st
Corinthians 7:2-5
Nevertheless,
to avoid fornication let every man have his own wife and let every
woman have her own husband.
Sex is not only for
procreation as most women believe but serves as an avenue for
intimacy and a tonic that nurtures every relationship.
Our
husbands should not see their wives as horses to ride and latter
drop; but they (husbands) should try and give room for romance to be
able to enjoy sex especially where age is not on our side or when
menopause set in. This is vital in any union.
NATURE
OF WORK
The
job (work) each other does must be supported for a stable home. Most
homes have fallen apart because they refuse to understand the nature
of their work.
Do
not marry the physical being alone but also all that will make each
other function in your chosen career. This will allow peace to reign
supreme and portray your home as God’s given and for others to
emulate.
In-laws
from both sides are very important and relevant in your home. Do not
exercise the attitude that will send them parking.
DOMINEERING
ATTITUDE
Experience
has shown that men have the tendency of being domineering. It is also
true that wives are to submit themselves unto their husbands as unto
the Lord (Ephesians 5:22) yet the Bible challenges both (husbands and
wives) to submit themselves to one another. (1 Corinthians 7:3-4)
It
is clear that there is no ideal wife or husband neither is there a
perfect home BUT
we must be determined to make success of our marriages.
NOTE:
If
you
fail
in your marriage, then regard failure in your entire life and very
liable to miss HEAVEN.
HYGIENE
Cleanliness
is next to Godliness. Both parties are advised to keep hygiene live
in their home. Most women have lost their divine husband due to
uncleanness on the pretence that my husband should understand. No man
is happy to live with a dirty woman.
CONCLUSION
Obedience
they say is better than sacrifice. Let us sacrifice everything
in regards to our deliberations today to build a lasting
relationship.
Thank
God for the grace we all are enjoying in Celestial Church of Christ,
worldwide. It was due to Pa
S. B. J Oshoffa’s
obedience. 50 years is a journey that worth celebrating. May God keep
us all under HIS grace to celebrate more years on earth.
Thank
you.
Long
live women forum,
Long
live Celestial Church of Christ, Yemetu Parish,
Long
live Celestial Church of Christ, worldwide.
AMEN.
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